So I’ve had a bit of a break from the blog. Cue lots of the usual being annoyed at myself, chastising myself and the like. Then I remembered the advice of being your own best friend, and asking myself what I’d say to a friend who gave themselves a break to focus on important life stuff, and do a bit of self-preservation. What would I say? I’d tell them they should cut themselves some slack, focus on what feels good, and come back to the non-essential stuff when the time is right. Which, thankfully, feels right about now. Why did…

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I had a foot operation a few weeks ago hence the radio silence on the blog. It’s been a weird month, not in a bad way despite the agony of the first few weeks post-op, but because sitting still gives you a lot of time to think, to plan, and to consider how you’d cope if being dependent on others (like so many are) was your life. I have been royally looked after by H and the parentals but still, it’s an odd thing being basically inside for a couple of months. The first two weeks I had to sit…

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I haven’t written a blog post for 12 days and I’ve not done my weekly Seven Things On A Sunday post since the end of July. I’d got into such a routine (especially with #STOAS) and it’s tempting to feel like I’ve let myself down or I’ve somehow ‘blown it’. But I’ve decided that that’s destructive inner dialogue and I’m giving it up. So I haven’t blogged for a bit. Who cares? I might care a bit (or a lot if I let myself) but what have I been doing instead? I’ve been working reeeally hard, at pace, every day…

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There are two kinds of friendship break-ups. The first is a gradual drifting away that happens over a series of months, sometimes years. It’s usually situational – you used to work together, now you don’t, you used to live near each other, now you don’t. Often based around things you have in common that no longer bind you. They can hurt, I’ve had a few like that in recent years and sometimes they can be baffling: “I thought we were stronger than that?”, but it’s the second kind of break up I want to talk about. This kind is much…

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Another lovely weekend after a really rubbish week. I got a rather dramatic (is there any other?) dose of norovirus and really struggled through the week. I’ll spare you any details but I am only just properly back on my feet. H and I went to a wedding this weekend in the country back where H is from and it was the most beautiful wedding. Part Christian, part Hindu it was such a special and unusual day. It was nice to get out of my PJs and into something a bit more glam too. Loved it. This week’s links haven’t…

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